This article I am about to delve into is relatable to lifting, but it is primarily to provide my insight and advice on helping you find happiness both inside and outside the gym. Happiness begins with self-acceptance and a self understanding. People must realize that they are born with what they have; you are what you are. Yes, there are always strives for self improvement as individuals such as myself endlessly pursue education and gains in order to improve our physique, strength, and cognitive abilities. However, there are certain features of our bodies, and certain aspects of our brain that we are born with that we cannot change. For example, for the last few years I have been struggling with anxiety disorder and an enzyme deficiency in my brain of MTFRH, which breaks down folic acid, which allows our brains to uptake serotonin and dopamine, the two primary chemicals that make us emotionally balanced and happy. These caused me to experience widespread and heavy depression for a long time until i found the right meds. The point is, what kept me going through the entire struggle was the fact that I knew there was nothing truly wrong with me because I was simply born this way and that I could not change it. Since I was born that way, the only way to find that happiness is to accept yourself for who you are and for what you are. Self-acceptance is the key to happiness, because once you accept yourself for who you truly are, you can move on with your life and become the best version of yourself that you possibly can. Additionally, if you do not want to, do not try to fit in with others or join social groups just because it seems like the cool thing to do, or because it seems like you’ll be respected or have something to gain from being in the group. Because FUCK that. Trying to change who you are for others is pointless, because if they can’t accept you and like you for whom you truly are, then they don’t deserve your time or presence. Be yourself no matter what. Don’t let others influence your goals or dreams or decisions, don’t try to be something you’re not. If people don’t like you for you, then straight up, they can go fuck themselves. Be you and only you, and do your own thing. In my experience so far in life, throughout all of the phases of depression, I have found that being myself and understanding that I must accept myself for who I am is the best way to find happiness. Sure, I wish I could change some things about myself, but I simply can’t. Rather than fret over what you can’t change, work hard to change what you can, such as your gains in the gym. Otherwise, be yourself no matter what and understand that whoever and whatever you are, you are a human being and are just as equal as anyone else on this planet. You are you, and you are amazing because just like me, you are a human, and no matter what kind of human you are, as long as you are yourself no matter what, you are ok.
” Don’t Let em say you ain’t beautiful, they can all get fucked just stay true to you,” – Eminem
- Tommy Roel
- Maxin’ Out’ n Blackin’ Out